When my daughter was about three years old. She said she wanted to be a “Contraption fixer!” aka a mechanic. Then! She wanted to be a writer. Nothing became of it! Then!! She wanted to a mental health provider because her be wanted to be one. She did not have the high enough math to be one as well. So! She decided to be a Psychologist.
The point I am trying to make here is! When we first see our kids to be curious in something. That is when we should watch them and see how far it goes. But at the same time. Do not deter them from it. Because what if it’s something they really and truly want to do as they get older? Then it becomes something they can be happy in rather than be miserable in.
Just because! We may be does not mean they (our kids!) have to be.
Let me give you an example! I me some kid (I will call him a kid because he does not even be called a kid at ten when we met. You will find about him in later posts!)
At the time we met! He asked me :”what do you want to be when you grow up?” said: “A DJ!” He laughed! He said he wanted to be an air force jet pilot! He continued! He said: “When you are making $1,00 a year! “I’ll be making $11,000 a year! (Keep i mind! This was 1967. When the COLA was not as bad as it s today! He had said this!)
Then he wanted to be a Hydraulics & pneumatics engineer because his dad new someone who was on and had a $60,000 house in Fla.. He die learn to be one. but somehow he got bitter about his employment ops. I still think that! His dad who was a R.R. engineer! Wanted him to be in a job where he could make a real buck. even thought! His dad was making one at the same time. Instead! He learned Computers.
Amazing! He knew what he what he wanted to be (at 10 yrs.old!)! But! Did not go for it!
I do want to make this even clear! Even given what had happened to Mr. Foley last week.
Over the years! There have been so great many people in this industry that have come and gone. That some have been called veterans of broadcasting.
And for him to put down these people in the industry & bad mouth them is! Well you know how that goes.
Another example is from me!
My mother was at one point in time! A RN. Due to circumstances she lost her license. And became a housekeeper for hire.,
It was not until ,was about 14 years old. I wanted to be a writer. Although For several years I did keep it to myself. But! When ,did tell my mom. She said: “You have to know someone!” “You have to pull There went that idea/thought.
Then in later years! I wanted to get into music! My influencers were Burt Bacharach, Chicago, Seals & Croft, Ed Ames, Sergio Mendes & Brasil ’66! I told my mom! And! To the same as well.
Years later! About 12 years to be precise! I asked her why did she not let me become any of those things that ,wanted? She said: “I did not want to see you fall flat on your face!”
I know! One should not be put down or blame ones mom! But! In looking back. I knew the why she says what she said. No one wants ever to see their own child not be successful/loose/fail/or “Fall flat on their face!”
My parents did not know what to look for! While my two “Half” Sisters and I were growing up any more than any of us even on to today. As a parent! I think we are more concerned about that they do not get into trouble, get good grades and you know the rest!
Most of us spend a good chunk of our life! Either trying to find something/someone to blame for what we have become in our life.,
There are even some people! Who have stayed at their jobs since it was their first job. And have not even given it a thought about doing something that either wanted, interesting, satisfying to do/be!
When your young and finding a job just to have some money in your pockets to spend. But! It’s another when you make your first job! Your life’s work! When you already have what it is that you have both in mind & want!,
,I myself did not understand the whys of my mom! But guess I made my peace with it.
But! What about us & our kids? ,Are we are telling them to take the course we are? The same job/career vs. what they want to do/be?,
I look at both writing and composing music! As a craft! But! For me writing is booth an interest and a hobby as well. It keeps my interest up constantly! Always thinking, wondering what can ,write next?
,But! It’s something that in looking back! I would still be writing either way! With either by hand, The typewriter (old I know!), Computer/internet, Blogging/posting, author of mini books, op-ed’s.
Do you see what I am talking about?
We have all gone through the same thing! Go to school, get good grades, I hope go onto college, get a job, married raise a family, and wait for the grim reaper to come.
In no way! Do we ever ask ourselves: “Is it worth it?” Because of the way our parents were raised and generations before them to the same did. We never ask because we were taught not to ask just do. But! Then a funny thing does happen. In later years we then ask ourselves: “Was it really worth it (all)?” Then the response is always “would have, could have, should have! But did not! There are people who have the visions while the rest of us wear bifocals that were given to us by….you know! The past always speaks louder than the present and the future always will remain silent.
When we reach high school! We do have the opportunity to plan carefully our life to be what we want it to be. The only thing is! We are looking for someone to direct us to where to go & what to do when we get there? ,In the Bible in the book of Ecclesiastes It says what we do between birth & death is filler but it is what we do with that filler is what makes our lives that much richer and fulfilled. Do we ever think about whatever it is that we are doing at the times ask ourselves “Is it worth it?” NO! all we care to know is that since we are making a good to decent wage with good benefits and retirement plan that! Is all we care to know! THIS IS OUR “HAPPY” LIFE!
It is a sad conclusion that! “We are what we think!” Picture yourself in two situations. 1. think of yourself as a boat/ship out in the sea! No motor/engine(s), paddles! Just “THERE” this is how our lives are. 2. Think of yourself as a stock! Think about you! And think to yourself “Would I want to invest in me?” And would I want others to do so? Nobody buys/invests in anything that they themselves do think that it is worth the time, effort, money. OR! Do you?,
With what we do know about the things that are illegal and immoral! And the short term that comes with it. Ask yourself “Is it worth it?”