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25 Ways to Be a Better Person Today

25 Ways to Be a Better Person Today.

 

I would like to talk about some of these.

 

1. Say thank you and mean it! When people do or say something . Say “You’re welcome” It’s a compliment being given and acknowledged.

 

7. Set goals wisely. And reward yourself for making progress. When making goals! Setup mini goals for yourself that will lead to your main goal. Because as you accomplish each mini goal. The main goal will seen not as hard to achieve.

 

12. Be honest for 100& for the entire day. It’s easier than you think. For me its like this! With my luck! Why bother?,

 

24.,Create your own definition of financial freedom,and inject a dose of passion into your budget. Yes! Saving can be fun.

 

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How to Be a Better Person Day by Day

How to Be a Better Person Day by Day.

I was searching for something the other day!

 

And I came across this! At first I was surprised to see it. But when I looked up these things I found there was more than I even dared to think about . What is even more interesting! Is that the fact that these are some the one’s that Even I use.,

 

The one on responsibility can be a big one to some people. But it’s about personal responsibility for growing and becoming who you want to be in your life not anyone else’s.

 

Down the list!

 

“Don’t expect instant results!” Change does come slowly. We all know! Nothing comes easy. But this is about us! And how we want to change and perhaps take on something better.

 

I think that there are people who are not  sure! If they can make any changes in their life because of how they were brought up. I now! I keep gong back to the days of “When they were growing up!” But it is true! There is either something their parents said/did! Or someone said/did or during that time. There is always residue/excess baggage in all our lives. We just were not taught how to get rid of it.

 

With me! I have met and encountered kids and adults (If they can be called that!) that have said/did stuff but those people are up and over!

 

I have said it before but it still true! The past is in the past! Why even bother talking about it? Or if you ever  meet them again. What good will it do? Nothing will ever change about it!

 

All you can do is learn from it, leave it where it is in the past and move on!

 

How To Be a Better Person: 101 Ways:

How To Be a Better Person: 101 Ways.

The basics are long and many! But they are achievable! To those who may not think so It’s because to some of us. How we were brought up and without knowing even the top 20! Let people, places, and yes things get to us. And again to some! Break us while with others make us into what as well as who we are today! There are basics and also some things as well as insight for us all.

ARE YOU SEEING THE POTENTIAL IN YOUR KIDS?

When my daughter was about three years old. She said she wanted to be a “Contraption fixer!” aka a mechanic. Then! She wanted to be a writer. Nothing became of it! Then!! She wanted to a mental health provider because her be wanted to be one. She did not have the high enough math to be one as well. So! She decided to be a Psychologist.

The point I am trying to make here is! When we first see our kids to be curious in something. That is when we should watch them and see how far it goes. But at the same time. Do not deter them from it. Because what if it’s something they really and truly want to do as they get older? Then it becomes something they can be happy in rather than be miserable in.

Just because! We may be does not mean they (our kids!) have to be.

Let me give you an example! I me some kid (I will call him a kid because he does not even be called a kid at ten when we met. You will find about him in later posts!)

At the time we met! He asked me :”what do you want to be when you grow up?” said: “A DJ!” He laughed! He said he wanted to be an air force jet pilot! He continued! He said: “When you are making $1,00 a year! “I’ll be making $11,000 a year! (Keep i mind! This was 1967. When the COLA was not as bad as it s today! He had said this!)

Then he wanted to be a Hydraulics & pneumatics engineer because his dad new someone who was on and had a $60,000 house in Fla.. He die learn to be one. but somehow he got bitter about his employment ops. I still think that! His dad who was a R.R. engineer! Wanted him to be in a job where he could make a real buck. even thought! His dad was making one at the same time. Instead! He learned Computers.

Amazing! He knew what he what he wanted to be (at 10 yrs.old!)! But! Did not go for it!

I do want to make this even clear! Even given what had happened to Mr. Foley last week.

Over the years! There have been so great many people in this industry that have come and gone. That some have been called veterans of broadcasting.

And for him to put down these people in the industry & bad mouth them is! Well you know how that goes.

Another example is from me!

My mother was at one point in time! A RN. Due to circumstances she lost her license. And became a housekeeper for hire.,

It was not until ,was about 14 years old. I wanted to be a writer. Although For several years I did keep it to myself. But! When ,did tell my mom. She said: “You have to know someone!” “You have to pull There went that idea/thought.

Then in later years! I wanted to get into music! My influencers were Burt Bacharach, Chicago, Seals & Croft, Ed Ames, Sergio Mendes & Brasil ’66! I told my mom! And! To the same as well.

Years later! About 12 years to be precise! I asked her why did she not let me become any of those things that ,wanted? She said: “I did not want to see you fall flat on your face!”

I know! One should not be put down or blame ones mom! But! In looking back. I knew the why she says what she said. No one wants ever to see their own child not be successful/loose/fail/or “Fall flat on their face!”

My parents did not know what to look for! While my two “Half” Sisters and I were growing up any more than any of us even on to today. As a parent! I think we are more concerned about that they do not get into trouble, get good grades and you know the rest!

Most of us spend a good chunk of our life! Either trying to find something/someone to blame for what we have become in our life.,

There are even some people! Who have stayed at their jobs since it was their first job. And have not even given it a thought about doing something that either wanted, interesting, satisfying to do/be!

When your young and finding a job just to have some money in your pockets to spend. But! It’s another when you make your first job! Your life’s work! When you already have what it is that you have both in mind & want!,

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,I myself did not understand the whys of my mom! But guess I made my peace with it.

But! What about us & our kids? ,Are we are telling them to take the course we are? The same job/career vs. what they want to do/be?,

I look at both writing and composing music! As a craft! But! For me writing is booth an interest and a hobby as well. It keeps my interest up constantly! Always thinking, wondering what can ,write next?

,But! It’s something that in looking back! I would still be writing either way! With either by hand, The typewriter (old I know!), Computer/internet, Blogging/posting, author of mini books, op-ed’s.

Do you see what I am talking about?

GOING SOLO! WITH/WITHOUT FRIEND(S)!

It took me a very long time! Before I could finally realize what a true feeling being on your own is. I am not saying that anyone/everyone should be on their own. But! Because of me being different! It does in a way both pose and create a problem.

You see! When you see, think things in a way that others somehow cannot. And when they find out you are not like them! Well, It can and does have its advantages as well as disadvantage as well.

During my time I tried so hard to please others. And it just did not work. Too many years! Too much effort! I gave up! As I did. I began to learn something new. Freedom! Independence! On my own terms!

I could go anywhere (As long as my parents did not know where I went & did!), do what I wanted to do, see who I wanted to see and on. I occupied my time at home with listening to the radio. When I was younger! My musical tastes changed as I got older. At 12 I listened to classical, traditional jazz, Sinatra, Martin, Bennett. I had a multi-band radio and I would listen at night because the SW (Shortwave) broadcasters from on the other side of the world would begin their transmissions at that time, and collect what is called QSL cards each time I submitted a reception report. Always watched TV. Read Billboard magazine (When it was a $1.00 a copy!). Playboy (To the same as well!). Of course! Rock-n-roll.

The point I am trying to make is this!

Friends will come & go! We will have the good, bad, ugly friends too! But! You only have a one time shot at life and what it has. And as the song goes: “You cannot please everyone so you have to please yourself!”

FLYING SOLO!

For most my life! I have been going solo. Because I have found that the one’s that I thought were friends! Were not. And that left me all by myself. At first I did not like it but then! It was not so bad from then on. ,I found that I could do whatever I wanted and loved it! Did things as I want, enjoy my freedom so much more.,

Not everyone! Is cut out to be like me. And I understand it. But when you find out like I did. Well for me having friends is all well and good. When you are on your own. It becomes a new freedom for you. I did not anyone to answer to. And then some.

Given the laws the way they are these days! There is still freedom in the world. But due to those who think otherwise! They are the one’s who make it tough on the rest of us.,

In all! Freedom abounds! While we stay within the laws itself.

There are benefits to flying solo! Is you have more time to devote to you. Where you want to be, what you want to be, a better life/lifestyle, picking & choosing who you want in your life. Personal accomplishments, many more.

Someone may have said that: “The more the merrier!” in a way yes/no! Running solo is somewhat like being a minimalist! You can have as many friends as you want! But! Do you need to have so many friends telling you “You cannot do this!” “You cannot do that!” in your life? Of course not.

It is you who has to live with yourself not them.

BEING DIFFERENT AS IN!!!

Knowing the rules, procedures, laws, understanding, knowing people. There is more to this but you know!
But! Being different is not as in: “Who are you”? It means being yourself, your own person. It’s my life and not someone else’s. It means having flexibility in choosing what you want, when you want, how you want. Taking the things you have learned along the way and still learning them and using them 24/7. Self-actualization can be defined as:,http://psychology.about.com/od/theoriesofpersonality/a/hierarchyneeds_2.htm. And what is it:,http://psychology.about.com/od/theoriesofpersonality/tp/self-actualized-characteristic.htm.
It’s not as hard as one may think it is. The best way I can describe it? It means going long the least traveled path in life. But! It also means knowing when to go onto the heavily traveled path just long enough to do what needs to be done. And jump back on the less traveled path and go about your journey/business.
We aren’t completing our hierarchy of needs! But! It does beat what is out there! The followers, the ones who cannot think or even do for themselves, the blending of each others minds (The jury is and always will be out on that one!).
Sum it all up and the conclusion is clear. Self-actualization means being yourself, doing what you want. But! It also means being open-minded, free thinking. Yes! There are times when one does need to challenge the system! But within the means of it! It is not out of reach. Knowing who to trust and whom not to trust. Keeping one’s own good counsel. And yes! At times wearing many hats judge, jury, counsel, best friend, man/woman/husband/wife/mom/dad.
Let me touch on being a good friend! I will not go into details of what a good friend is! We all have our own definition of that. Some on the money! Some others, not so much. Being a good friend means for someone who you want to go to if/when you have a problem with. And it does not go any further than “You, me, the wall”!. If you really think about it. Being a good friend is the very same thing that you want in a friend as well. It is very unfortunate because the world and the way it is. That friend is so very few and very far between. I could go on but I am sure you know the rest of the story!
Being a student does have its drawbacks. There are people who, when they meet someone who is! Two things that come to mind here. 1. They think “This guys so cool”! 2. They think “You’re like all the others!” A clash of definitions! Is this really what it all comes down to.

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