When my daughter was about three years old. She said she wanted to be a “Contraption fixer!” aka a mechanic. Then! She wanted to be a writer. Nothing became of it! Then!! She wanted to a mental health provider because her be wanted to be one. She did not have the high enough math to be one as well. So! She decided to be a Psychologist.
The point I am trying to make here is! When we first see our kids to be curious in something. That is when we should watch them and see how far it goes. But at the same time. Do not deter them from it. Because what if it’s something they really and truly want to do as they get older? Then it becomes something they can be happy in rather than be miserable in.
Just because! We may be does not mean they (our kids!) have to be.
Let me give you an example! I me some kid (I will call him a kid because he does not even be called a kid at ten when we met. You will find about him in later posts!)
At the time we met! He asked me :”what do you want to be when you grow up?” said: “A DJ!” He laughed! He said he wanted to be an air force jet pilot! He continued! He said: “When you are making $1,00 a year! “I’ll be making $11,000 a year! (Keep i mind! This was 1967. When the COLA was not as bad as it s today! He had said this!)
Then he wanted to be a Hydraulics & pneumatics engineer because his dad new someone who was on and had a $60,000 house in Fla.. He die learn to be one. but somehow he got bitter about his employment ops. I still think that! His dad who was a R.R. engineer! Wanted him to be in a job where he could make a real buck. even thought! His dad was making one at the same time. Instead! He learned Computers.
Amazing! He knew what he what he wanted to be (at 10 yrs.old!)! But! Did not go for it!
I do want to make this even clear! Even given what had happened to Mr. Foley last week.
Over the years! There have been so great many people in this industry that have come and gone. That some have been called veterans of broadcasting.
And for him to put down these people in the industry & bad mouth them is! Well you know how that goes.
Another example is from me!
My mother was at one point in time! A RN. Due to circumstances she lost her license. And became a housekeeper for hire.,
It was not until ,was about 14 years old. I wanted to be a writer. Although For several years I did keep it to myself. But! When ,did tell my mom. She said: “You have to know someone!” “You have to pull There went that idea/thought.
Then in later years! I wanted to get into music! My influencers were Burt Bacharach, Chicago, Seals & Croft, Ed Ames, Sergio Mendes & Brasil ’66! I told my mom! And! To the same as well.
Years later! About 12 years to be precise! I asked her why did she not let me become any of those things that ,wanted? She said: “I did not want to see you fall flat on your face!”
I know! One should not be put down or blame ones mom! But! In looking back. I knew the why she says what she said. No one wants ever to see their own child not be successful/loose/fail/or “Fall flat on their face!”
My parents did not know what to look for! While my two “Half” Sisters and I were growing up any more than any of us even on to today. As a parent! I think we are more concerned about that they do not get into trouble, get good grades and you know the rest!
Most of us spend a good chunk of our life! Either trying to find something/someone to blame for what we have become in our life.,
There are even some people! Who have stayed at their jobs since it was their first job. And have not even given it a thought about doing something that either wanted, interesting, satisfying to do/be!
When your young and finding a job just to have some money in your pockets to spend. But! It’s another when you make your first job! Your life’s work! When you already have what it is that you have both in mind & want!,
,I myself did not understand the whys of my mom! But guess I made my peace with it.
But! What about us & our kids? ,Are we are telling them to take the course we are? The same job/career vs. what they want to do/be?,
I look at both writing and composing music! As a craft! But! For me writing is booth an interest and a hobby as well. It keeps my interest up constantly! Always thinking, wondering what can ,write next?
,But! It’s something that in looking back! I would still be writing either way! With either by hand, The typewriter (old I know!), Computer/internet, Blogging/posting, author of mini books, op-ed’s.
Do you see what I am talking about?
I have not had any of them in my life. I think it’s because of the way my parents were brought up. There have been time when I had my favorite stars! But that was it.
I grew up watching a “LOT” of cartoons. And that may has had something to do with it. Each time I saw rin tin tin, the lone ranger, fury, flipper! I got so depressed you would not believe.
But The prime time stars! That was different. Prime time when I was growing up. Was mostly TV programs, some movies, specials.
I did see the bad guys! But I knew it was all make believe. I learned that on my own. I did learn about how crime does not pay, the good guys always win and get the girl (All but me!), Were there any? Heroes and villains and roll models for me? No!
Do we need them even today? No! Because all of them fail in one way or another or at sometime when you least expect it. If we want any of them! We have to look into the past for ,them.
The two great men from the past! Are Abe Lincoln & Franklin Delano Roosevelt. I do have to admire these two men. Because for example! Abe Lincoln when he was growing up. He was in height, 6 feet four inches (1.93 meters). And with his height he was able to do any things other men could not. Plus! Given the fact that he knew that whatever he did there was some money waiting for him afterwards.,
As for FDR! His world was one big observation deck! Nature always held him in awe of her beauty. He was a man that was upright, honesty, outstanding, morals, ethics, common sense and so on.
As I was growing up! I learned from people who I somehow knew they were the one’s that had so much more than I. They have been around they know where they are coming from and you knew it. I could not use them for any kind/type of role models. They came! They went! You develop this sense of IDK! What you would call it. But you knew this was no ordinary person.
The things we said and did as well as the others who said and did things to us as well had an influence on us growing up.
The one’s who made us what we are today! When we least expect it. To those I can say TY!!!!
Chase down your passion like it’s the last bus of the night. ~Terri Guillemets
Is the one word that has many different meanings/definitions/interpretations to a lot of us.
But! Passion is the one word that I found that can separate us from them!
What is it that to some of us gives us that drive to achieve and accomplish things we like/live/love?
What is “YOUR” passion?
It can be a whole lot of things!
People, places, things & then some.
The people we like/love that are or have come and gone in and out of our lives.
Places that we have seen in some way book, film, magazine.
Or have been to or would love to be there/live there.
Things! That either drive us crazy!
Or can’t get enough of!
Food, comfort food, candy, decadent pleasures, fruits, liquors, drinks, even people!!!!
But! The one thing!
That I think that where I’m coming from is this!
That gives us the desire to drive us to do what we want to do is!
Our work! It may seem somehow strange to some people of what I’m talking about!
But to those who do know.
They are the one’s who have the passion & drive to do what is needed in life!
We all in our own way.
Want the things we do to have meaning in our lives.
This! In itself! Is so very hard to even describe!
But let’s think about what we want to do with our life?
When we were so very young!
What did we want to be when we grew up?
Doctor, police person, firefighter, paramedic (this was created long before the word ever was in our lingo!).
When I was in the 4th. grade!
The art teacher asked the class: “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
Everyone in the class drew a picture of what they wanted to be!
I drew a picture of me being a D. J.!
When the teacher showed the class my picture!
They ALL! Laughed!
But! The art teacher said: “Now! Wait a minute!”
“This is good!”
I think what he meant was: “There is someone who can think out of the box as to what s/he wants to do with their life!”
Do you see where I’m coming from on this?
This! Is what we do with our lives!
Go to school, get good grades, either go to a trade school or continue on through to high school, either find a good paying job, or on to college/university, find something that makes BIG bucks, find someone, get married, raise a family, save for retirement and wait for the grim reaper to come!!!!!!!
I define “PASSION” as being your own person.
You have to be.
It’s because of the way too many doomsayers, naysayers the people we know will tell us: “You can’t do that!” “That’s not you!”
These people get in the way of what it is that we want to do in our lifetime.
Then! It is ever so very true!
That we do live our lives in the shell of what we truly do want to become.
Forget the past. Accept your mistakes. Dare to speak the truth. Be honest to your commitment.
If you have ever felt such tremendous enthusiasm and desire for something that you would gladly spend all your waking hours working on it, that you would happily do without pay, then you have found your passion.
— Sharon Cook & Graciela Sholander
Without passion you don’t have energy, with out energy you have nothing. – Unknown