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How to Be a Better Person Day by Day

How to Be a Better Person Day by Day.

I was searching for something the other day!


And I came across this! At first I was surprised to see it. But when I looked up these things I found there was more than I even dared to think about . What is even more interesting! Is that the fact that these are some the one’s that Even I use.,


The one on responsibility can be a big one to some people. But it’s about personal responsibility for growing and becoming who you want to be in your life not anyone else’s.


Down the list!


“Don’t expect instant results!” Change does come slowly. We all know! Nothing comes easy. But this is about us! And how we want to change and perhaps take on something better.


I think that there are people who are not  sure! If they can make any changes in their life because of how they were brought up. I now! I keep gong back to the days of “When they were growing up!” But it is true! There is either something their parents said/did! Or someone said/did or during that time. There is always residue/excess baggage in all our lives. We just were not taught how to get rid of it.


With me! I have met and encountered kids and adults (If they can be called that!) that have said/did stuff but those people are up and over!


I have said it before but it still true! The past is in the past! Why even bother talking about it? Or if you ever  meet them again. What good will it do? Nothing will ever change about it!


All you can do is learn from it, leave it where it is in the past and move on!



BBC – Capital – The truth about office romances

BBC – Capital – The truth about office romances.

I am sure we have all heard about those office romances. They are ever so easy to get in! But! Hard to get out of without everyone know.


This one Company I worked at. There was this one CSR, who hooked up with a guy who was in charge of the companies phone system. She got along with him so well! That he left his wife and family to be with her. He was able to slot her in a position to be number two in charge of ,the CSR’s. After she got the promotion! She dropped him! And went back to her boyfriend.


Office romances! Are a slippery slope as well. Because of the gossiping rumor mill. Come on! Admit it! We all love office gossip/rumors. ,It’s what makes the day goes by.


We are all looking for that someone even if it’s at work. But! It s the what is being said that can and does hurt anyone and yes! Even men as well as women. Or: “I will not tell anyone!” do not make it! Even if there is an agreement to only meet after work, that still does not make it ok. Again! The spillover into the workplace. Given too! Either the workplace rules or! State employment laws can affect you also.,


I guess you could say that I was looking for a continuation of what I posted earlier.

But! This is just as good because I can relate to it. I was a student in a school(s) where you either a good student! Or you were treated as excrement! I meant what I said! At the time there was no real testing for abilities to see if you were meant to be in regular classes. Or slow learners class.

My mom had a hard time convincing the school principle to put me in slow learners class. The principal said: “We will put him in regular class”. Mistake! If ever. My mom even told me I flunked each & every class! But! They still kept on passing me. When she asked the principal why? The principal said: “Because of his age!”. I was always one to two years older than my other classmates.,

Teachers should not put down a child in front of their classmates because of their problem(s) in class where they think that will help “Wake them up!”. Not true! It does more harm than good.

Granted! Teachers are not child mental health experts. But that is to presented to the parents & the principal for them to decide not the teacher.,

Over the years! I found that the boys were called on more than the girls! Chauvinism! Even in grade school!

And YES! There was some what was called “Class Clowns” in school. We (Yes! even me!) did not really want to be there but! You know how that works.

The inconsistencies! Of teachers how “They” wanted their classroom to be. I still think it’s a matter of bragging rights to the other teachers of: “Look how well my students are!”.

If! There was ever a child that was not behaving! It was either the ruler, yard stick, thick paddle (Many a day! I saw many a yard stick break in half when in contact to the kids caboose!). Board of education to the seat of knowledge! “GOOD ONE!”

It’s not as easy today! To teach kids as it was way back then! Even back then. The teachers thought they had it tough!,

But! Because of the world and the society we live! Teachers are not the only one’s w/o sin! Parent(s) too are to blame as well! Genealogy! Has a lot to do with how our kids are raised as well.

When our parents were raised by their parents and so on. It does get past down to us in turn we pass it down to us as well.

It also affects the child’s behavior in class and their ability to learn as well.,

What our kids need! Is somehow for them to think of how this problem can be worked. Our school system is a combo of one big day care center, a human version of pc programing because that is what the school system really does rather than get kids to learn how to use their minds to the max!

I can remember in the 70’s! We were concerned about the environment of where our kids learned. Now! We are more concerned about the system itself!,

Us as parents want our kids to get a good education so that they can compete for jobs/careers. But! At the same time we do not want to open our pocketbooks to do that because of the (even) politics that come into play!


Some of you may remember! I posted an article about it.

Guess what? Here it comes again!

The thing to keep in mind is the income Vs. Outcome. This cannot be overdone.

1. Always keep track of your money! It’s yours! Why not?

2. Be responsible where it comes from! And where it goes. That means keep track of each cent & dollar you spend. There is a reason for this.

If you kept a record of where it came from and where it is going! You will find that over time. Money you did not even think you had before. This does not mean being stingy, cheapskate, tightwad whatever!

3. Work the coupons to your advantage. Example: When there is a sale! And you know it is as sale. Always use the paper, e-coupons and you savings card the grocery store has for it’s customers as well. Be aware of displays that may look like a sale but! It’s a price increase.

4. Cut the cable/satellite! Americans are now cutting the cable/ satellite because of rate increases/service. And! Why still have it! When you can go on the Internet and watch it at little to no cost?

5. Cut the landline! 67% of Americans a doing just that. Because it’s cheaper to use your cell phone that a landline.

6. Investing! A bad word if ever? There people who still believe that it’s better to either play the lottery/gamble it away. But! Think of it this way! With what the banks are paying people who leave their money in the bank. And with what banks are charging for interest. You could make four times that much if you invested in the market. YES! You do have to know what you are doing when it comes to investing. So is playing the lottery/gambling!


8. Brown bag it for a while!

9. Rent, subscribe, take-out movies! The take-out is from the library.

10. ISP’S! There are many ISP’S in cyberspace. One where you can connect to it via your toilet! I have one where it uses cell phone frequencies to connect to the Internet for $50.00 mo..

11. Consider: “Minimalists” Now! This is something that everyone should think about. ,I’m a minimalist! It’s something that I did not know exist until I realized I am. Even though I do love my food, drink, wearing what I want to wear, living on my terms and such. Being a minimalist. Affords me the time I would otherwise spend on trying to figure out who gets paid first? Me? Or them?

12. Retirement! I have met people who think that “When I am fully vested I can retire and spend time with the grandkids!” Once they do. They start to find that! That Company retirement pension. Gets depleted rapidly! And they find themselves trying to find work and continue until the legal age to retire.

Planning! Is everything!

The sooner you find a job! That is when clearly should thin about setting up a retirement account. Even during the President Carter Administration! Social security was not as stable as we thought it was. Even onto today.

13. The reason I put this Is because as it has been said: “Money is the root of all evil”. We have heard the stories about people who won the lottery and stuff! And those who went through it like water. As you will see it is not the only game in town.


15. Consider A part time job! Now! The thing here is that. Once you start one! It can and does become addictive. Because you can get used to it and when you do decide to leave it! It’s very hard to go back to an one income. I suggest this only because if you have some things you would like to get rid of. Then this is a good way to go.

16. If you are those who were laid off because of the “Great Recession” and working at a fast food place! Let’s say that you have a marketable skill. Why not think about “Freelancing”. It means that you take what you know and make a buck out of it. When you start out you may have to make you are asking price a little lower than what the market is asking. Once you establish yourself! Slowly increase your price to what the market is.

17. Funding for school! This may seem like the “Death Sentence” for some! But! The times are changing. There is no rewind, way back machines! As I understand it! Most Federal, state funding. Asks for the person who is out of work that if they want to retool of learn another line of work. Is to find something that takes two years or less to learn. It does take time to find these things out! It will not drop out of the sky for you!

18. If you need help in paying your utilities! Look into Federal, State agencies for help. Also! These cell phone carriers do offer Government subsidized phone service. Be careful! There are cell phone companies that do offer a free used cell phone! But! They will try to ask you to pay for additional minutes as well. DON’T! Its a ploy! , You do have to meet Federal poverty guidelines to get any kind/type of help/funding.

19. When it comes to eligibility ! The Federal Government has some sort of eligibility form. Do not do it! Go to the agency and apply for it there.

20. RECYCLE! I have seen people who think “You can make a lot of money recycling!” Yes! And No! Recycling does have many benefits. But! Think of the time you would need to make a lot of money recycling? Vs. Cashing in? The money you can make from recycling can go for something later on. Not the here & now! The pennies do add up!


When it comes to relationships both professional & personal! Excess baggage can be a real M-F’er for anyone/everyone. That! is Because when we came into the world. We did not have a manual in tow at all. As we grew up our parents themselves did not know what to do with it. At that time no one ever even heard of it.

So what did we do? We held on to it not knowing what to do. As e got older little did we know that when we did carry it over into our life. That it would do more harm than good.

For example! There was a repot years ago. About a couple of teens that found on the Internet ways to make a pipe bomb. The assembled it. When it was finished! The did not know what to do with it.

That is the exact same way we do with excess baggage! We acquire it! But what do we do with it?

Solution! : ‘LET IT GO”! We cannot let our past interfere with even our professional and personal life. Because in both way. Carryovers do come in the way of the people we meet.

Another example of this is! Let’s say a woman who is doing business with a client/customer. Gets “HIT ON” by her client. Even though! The client does not know that she is in a relationship! She gets “Bent-out-of-shape” about it! There is an old saying: “You cannot get into trouble for something you do not know”! Let’ say because she has been hit on by so many men! That she thinks “They are all are the same”! And what does that make her? “Defensive” towards anyone/everyone who is a man! That! is Excess baggage! If the man did know! Clearly! That is a very different story.

Because of her and her excess baggage. She can burn her business as well as personal bridges before/after they were ever crossed!

Or! In one’s own personal life. Whatever happened then! Is left in then, not now! Unfortunately! Even if one of our family members said/did something to us! Even then! It becomes excess baggage.

What do we do? Let it go! It’s like! If you have a problem. And you say to someone: “This problem is eating away at me”. Guess again! How can a problem eat away at you? It’s invisible!,

With excess baggage. Just let it go. What people said/did to you. Cannot be done over! “REALLY”.

I have did so many things to others as they did to me. But I do not let that get in the way of meeting and making friends and business professionals at all. Why? Because it does not make any sense to hold on to something that you cannot hold in your hands or even reverse the process.

Whatever the problems others have about or against us. The problems are out there! Not in here!

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