BE YOURSELF! NOT! SOMEONE ELSE(‘S)!
This! Is something no one ever even thought of to be! Because! We were not taught to do/be.
It’s not fitting in, belonging, being/looking “Cool”, carbon copying someone else to be like someone else. Because when you compromise yourself! You lose yourself and become in reality! Fair game to anyone/everyone’s follower when there is no one to follow. Being yourself does not mean you become a loner all your life. In the long & short of it! It does attract people who want to know someone who is themselves and want to get to know them with the possibility of being friends with that person.
A great example is from Joyce Mayer, here is the article link:,http://www.joycemeyer.org/Articles/ea.aspx?article=how_to_succeed_at_being_yourself .
During the beatnik generation! It was cool to be cool by choice not by standards set by society/world.to be yourself you have to be yourself! Accept you for whom you are. If others cannot? You are not missing anything from the person(s). You have to be able to live for you. Yes! You will make mistakes but that comes with the world we live in. How else are you going to learn what works? And what does not?
,In order to even learn Philosophy 101! The one prerequisite to learn it! ,Is to be your own person! If you cannot be your own person! Then you cannot learn “Philosophy” .
The way to your own person is. You have to be willing to take some risks in being yourself. It is hard when you have been trying to fit in for so many years.
You have to think for yourself, do for yourself, believe in yourself, know what you know because you know what you know. Do not listen to those who will tell you that you cannot do this/that. You will always encounter naysayers, deterrents. Losers! Love losers! They want someone to drown with them in their own pity. Feeling they cannot make it in this world so they think that they have to stay in their station in life. They want to! But! At the same time! Either do not or are not willing to make something out of themselves or their situation at all.
Hang around these people and they will drown you quicker than a bad alternator drains a car battery! Losers are followers! You have to find people who are positive and stick with them and you to have to do your job to them up as well.
You have to think for yourself as well. Through education and always keep up with the fast paced information. And not let others do you’re thinking for you. This! Is where a lot of people let happen to them. We let others do our thinking for us. And what happens? We end up being no better then they are!
We have dreams, objectives, plans, goals desires in our lives. But! Something happened along the way. When we got our first job! We ended up settling in! And there we stayed. As time went on. We lost our desires, needs, ,wants, in our life. When we see/hear about other that we either know or heard about We get jealous, envious about them.
And what do we do? We end up living the rest of our lives in the land of: “Would have!” “Could have!” “Should have!” But! Did not!
In our life and time! We become petrified by “POLITICAL CORRECTNESS!” We have to be mega careful in what we think, say, do to others. I have told people that the real definition of it is not what you or others think it is. I get looks of just short of being called a “Smart ass” No problem there!!!!
Not the first! Not the last!
Breaking away just enough from the mainstream and mindlessness! Is like quitting tobacco. Hard to stop and go in another direction. But! It can be done. The real question is: “Do you want to do it?” You may lose friends but you can also gain friends. These will be the one’s who you just might happen to like!